Rock of Recovery

RRRA Appendix

Lust and anger are sibling emotions. This is exhibited by the story of Samson. Lust is a self-absorption that destroys healthy relationships. We also look at Proverbs 7 and evaluate a seductress/seducer's behaviors. We will look at the Lure of a Simpleton, consequences of immorality and God's sexual sobriety instructions. 

RRRA Lesson 22 - Jesus, Friend of Sinners

Jesus, Friend of Sinners! Jesus loves the broken. You aren't ever too broken to be accepted by the Lord. If we can nurture a friendship with Jesus, our trauma wounds will resolve. A relationship with the Savior can bring us to a place of self-love and inner fulfillment. Mary Magdalene had 7 demons and yet she was the first one to see the risen Savior. The prostitute washing his feet was forgiven much, therefore, she loved much. The woman at the well was the first one whom Jesus revealed that he was the Messiah. There were four questionable women in the bloodline of Jesus: Tamar, Rahab, the harlot, Ruth the Moabite, and Bathsheba. The Lord never despises the broken and contrite heart. Even the thief on the cross was accepted into the kingdom. Embrace your brokenness and allow the Lord to redeem you. God loves the broken!

RRRA Lesson 21 - Sexual Sobriety

Sexual Sobriety is intentional. Casual sex clouds your judgment and attracts toxic relationships. The fear of the Lord is key to recovery. Agreeing with the Word of God is my job. Rationalizing and excusing is dangerous. If God’s Word is true, then it is not debatable. If I am hyper-sexualized, I have emotional wounds and lots of trust issues. We will look at our rationalizations and excuse making, then at the biblical instructions set for our protection. Next, will will work through developing a desire for purity and finding the gift of holiness through repentance. Finally, we discuss a sexual sobriety recovery plan.

RRRA Lesson 19 - Identity

A lack of identity and self-worth creates internal chaos which will be acted out externally in relationships. Those experiencing a lack of stability in relationships, particularly in childhood with their parents, will have developed a "fake self" to appease others and will need to work on understanding their own selves and work on building their own identity. 
There is a "Building your Own Identity" questionnaire and an identifying your feelings of "unworthiness" and understanding the work that needs to be done to cure your internal self-worth and confidence. 

RRRA Lesson 18 - Marriage

In marriage, it takes two whole healthy people to make one lasting happy marriage. Healthy individuals with be able to securely attach. They will respect each other's boundaries. Kindness and gentleness will be their normal communication skills. There will be a mutual affection and compatibility and disagreements will be dissolved quickly. There is a Mr. or Mrs. Possible Evaluation and an evaluation to know when marriage is right for you. Then there is a relationship evaluation and a motive evaluation. We will work on discovering how broken we really are and how much work we need to do to be emotionally fit enough to give ourselves to another. 

RRRA Lesson 17 - Stay or Go

Stay or Go. If I agree with lies, I empower the liar. Strong emotions are addictive and develop unhealthy thinking patterns. Toxic thinking gets stuck on a loop in the brain and floods the mind with noise and the body with anxiety and stress. We will look at sick vs healthy love and how strong our chronic grieving cycle is. We will evaluate our marriage and significant relationships and decide intentionally to choose how much of ourselves can safely be present in these relationships. 

RRRA Lesson 16 - CPTSD

Complex Post traumatic stress is evident in recovery. This type of trauma develops from continual ongoing repetitive trauma from childhood, chronic illness or domestic violence. Healing toxic thinking and relationship patterns makes space to develop healthy relationship skills. We end up accepting breadcrumbs in relationships and gaslighting and betraying ourselves. This lesson looks at passive vs aggressive relationship sabotage and healing through open communication skills. 

RRRA Lesson 15 - Infidelity and Repair

Infidelity is reckless and will contaminant your life. Immature conscience, lack of commitment, unhealed betrayal wounds... without healing and development of your own identity you will develop a fake self. Toxic, unhealthy relationships have risk factors for an affair that need to be addressed. This lesson will include a good discussion on fear bonds vs trust bonds. To heal you must learn to love. 

RRRA Lesson 14 - Sexual Trauma

Sexual Trauma and Behavior Responses. Healthy love lets us come and go and rejoices in our individuality. There is a self-evaluation of identifying your sexual trauma. Sexual trauma develops skewed thinking and a person will develop learned patterns of survival. We look at  the behaviors of a person consumed with devouring another with the inability to securely attach. Other evaluations will include a Fantasy Relationship, and emotionally unavailability,

RRRA Lesson 13 - Groomer

I cannot love another until I can love myself. A groomer is driven by self-absorption. They are cool and calculated and set traps for another. There is an evaluation to help identify the behaviors of a potential groomer. A list of what a groomer will not do will be discussed and what makes a person easy prey.