Rock of Recovery

RRRA Lesson 15 - Infidelity and Repair

Infidelity is reckless and will contaminant your life. Immature conscience, lack of commitment, unhealed betrayal wounds... without healing and development of your own identity you will develop a fake self. Toxic, unhealthy relationships have risk factors for an affair that need to be addressed. This lesson will include a good discussion on fear bonds vs trust bonds. To heal you must learn to love. 

RRRA Lesson 14 - Sexual Trauma

Sexual Trauma and Behavior Responses. Healthy love lets us come and go and rejoices in our individuality. There is a self-evaluation of identifying your sexual trauma. Sexual trauma develops skewed thinking and a person will develop learned patterns of survival. We look at  the behaviors of a person consumed with devouring another with the inability to securely attach. Other evaluations will include a Fantasy Relationship, and emotionally unavailability,

RRRA Lesson 13 - Groomer

I cannot love another until I can love myself. A groomer is driven by self-absorption. They are cool and calculated and set traps for another. There is an evaluation to help identify the behaviors of a potential groomer. A list of what a groomer will not do will be discussed and what makes a person easy prey. 

RRRA Lesson 12 - Recognition of a Player

True love is never dominance, control or manipulation. Relationship addictions are characterized by confusion and anxiety. A player may have many cyclical relationship addiction patterns but be totally unaware of their behavioral toxicity. They are insecure and always look to connect to someone to make them feel secure and safe. Then their dysfunctional behaviors emerge to control the relationship. But the insecurity is inside of them. So, no matter how secure the relationship is they will always feel insecure and likely sabotage the relationship to repeat new relationships with the same addictive patterns.

RRRA Lesson 11 - The Chase of the Fantasy

A wounded inner core develops fantasy thinking to escape reality and ends in disgrace. Wounded ones are divided and accept partial plate and compromise because they are broken. There is a plan to stop obsessive thinking. Sexual obsessing is an un-sanctified imagination. 

RRRA Lesson 10 - Overcoming Lust Patterns

Self-absorption misses true love and drops into lust. Lustful thinking patterns dominate unintentional thinking patterns just like any other addiction. These thought patterns must be intentionally interrupted and forced out of the mind. There is a recovery guide to develop pure thinking skills. Also, lust is usually coming from an empty or wounded space that needs healed. Triggers to dysfunctional thinking patterns will be discussed. There is also a true love evaluation and the difference between a trust bond vs. a fear bond. 

RRRA Lesson 9 - Distance Evaluator

Painful relationships need distance to bring peace and perspective. This lesson outlines six levels of distance in relationships. There is an evaluation scale to determine what level of distance each of your significant relationships may need. When you are free from a toxic relationship, stand steadfast and do not be entangled again with them. Toxic relationships make us captive in the bondage of confusion. Galatians 5:1 gives us permission to create distance in relationships. 

RRRA Lesson 8 - Recovery from Relationship Addiction

Addictive relationships never bring health or healing. You can only control yourself. Attempting to control another will drive you crazy. If you stay in an addictive relationship, you will not like who you become. This chapter outlines inner healing work that needs done to escape relationship addictions and/or domestic violence. We will learn to recognize maturity and work on our own emotional/relational recovery program. Finally, we will learn to identify quantities of a healthy relationship.

RRRA Lesson 7 - Relationship Addiction Cycle

Relationship addictions suck the life out of you. Recognizing a repeated cycle of toxic relationships is vital to stop the cycle. Some are addicted to love feelings but only for selfish gain. Love bombing is emotional manipulation. Relationship addictions are characterized by intense obsessing over another, a lack of identity, dominance and control. An easily observable cycle is intense passion, roller coaster, trauma/drama and chewed up and spit out with the aggressor playing the victim.

RRRA Lesson 6 - Trauma Bonding

Obsession is magnetically strong but is not love. When you are love starved all responses are selfish. Trauma Bonds form from repetitive abuse which can form intense attraction to a new person that holds that same personality characteristic of your past abusers. We will be recognizing red flags and why we are vulnerable to toxic relationships. Next, we will explore rules of engagement for new relationships.