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RRRA Lesson 12 - Recognition of a Player

True love is never dominance, control or manipulation. Relationship addictions are characterized by confusion and anxiety. A player may have many cyclical relationship addiction patterns but be totally unaware of their behavioral toxicity. They are insecure and always look to connect to someone to make them feel secure and safe. Then their dysfunctional behaviors emerge to control the relationship. But the insecurity is inside of them. So, no matter how secure the relationship is they will always feel insecure and likely sabotage the relationship to repeat new relationships with the same addictive patterns.

RRRA Lesson 11 - The Chase of the Fantasy

A wounded inner core develops fantasy thinking to escape reality and ends in disgrace. Wounded ones are divided and accept partial plate and compromise because they are broken. There is a plan to stop obsessive thinking. Sexual obsessing is an un-sanctified imagination. 

RRRA Lesson 10 - Overcoming Lust Patterns

Self-absorption misses true love and drops into lust. Lustful thinking patterns dominate unintentional thinking patterns just like any other addiction. These thought patterns must be intentionally interrupted and forced out of the mind. There is a recovery guide to develop pure thinking skills. Also, lust is usually coming from an empty or wounded space that needs healed. Triggers to dysfunctional thinking patterns will be discussed. There is also a true love evaluation and the difference between a trust bond vs. a fear bond. 

RRRA Lesson 9 - Distance Evaluator

Painful relationships need distance to bring peace and perspective. This lesson outlines six levels of distance in relationships. There is an evaluation scale to determine what level of distance each of your significant relationships may need. When you are free from a toxic relationship, stand steadfast and do not be entangled again with them. Toxic relationships make us captive in the bondage of confusion. Galatians 5:1 gives us permission to create distance in relationships. 

RRRA Lesson 8 - Recovery from Relationship Addiction

Addictive relationships never bring health or healing. You can only control yourself. Attempting to control another will drive you crazy. If you stay in an addictive relationship, you will not like who you become. This chapter outlines inner healing work that needs done to escape relationship addictions and/or domestic violence. We will learn to recognize maturity and work on our own emotional/relational recovery program. Finally, we will learn to identify quantities of a healthy relationship.

RRRA Lesson 7 - Relationship Addiction Cycle

Relationship addictions suck the life out of you. Recognizing a repeated cycle of toxic relationships is vital to stop the cycle. Some are addicted to love feelings but only for selfish gain. Love bombing is emotional manipulation. Relationship addictions are characterized by intense obsessing over another, a lack of identity, dominance and control. An easily observable cycle is intense passion, roller coaster, trauma/drama and chewed up and spit out with the aggressor playing the victim.

RRRA Lesson 6 - Trauma Bonding

Obsession is magnetically strong but is not love. When you are love starved all responses are selfish. Trauma Bonds form from repetitive abuse which can form intense attraction to a new person that holds that same personality characteristic of your past abusers. We will be recognizing red flags and why we are vulnerable to toxic relationships. Next, we will explore rules of engagement for new relationships.  

RRRA Lesson 5 - Relationship Bondage

Perversion of truth is manipulation. Selfishness perverts relationships by establishing demands, usurping your authority, and taking control over another's life. This is a relational captivity plot with a goal of total bondage. You will be dominated until you have no identity. This lesson takes us through 2 Corinthians and Galatians and gives us instructions from the apostle Paul on how to handle those who want you zealous for them and not for God. Paul just wishes that these people (perverters of truth) would just cut themselves off. 

RRRA Lesson 4 - Co-Dependency

Healthy relationships require emotional fitness. When I have broken down pillars in my life, I choose broken people. I may develop a rescuer mentality. I may attract insecure attachments or develop other types of problematic attachments. This lesson will include a codependency evaluation. Then we will establish personal boundaries with clear directions for how we allow people to treat us. Next, we will explore sick syndrome questionnaire where we look at ourselves and evaluate our part of the problem. We will introduce limerence which is a receptive romantic thought of another through fantasy thinking. This false thinking pattern will set us up for destructive insecure relationship. 

RRRA Lesson 3 - Relationship Addiction

If I am not content alone, I will never be content with another person. Relationship Addictions are toxic patterns that must be unlearned. This lesson will explore trauma bonding, loving bombing, pseudo-loyalty, and enmeshment. Disentangling from a toxic relationship will be messy and may take an act of congress. Your superpower will be placing firm boundaries and standing your ground. Self-evaluation tools will include a relationship addiction evaluation, stuck evaluation, and how to escape the relationship addiction cycle. We will also look at terms like euphoric recall and romanticizing the past that keeps us returning with false hopes. Another exercise will be to make a trouble list of toxic behaviors and setting a level from 1-10 on the confusion in the relationship.