Rock of Recovery

RRDD Trouble Seeing

Does it sound like some cliche' when you hear people talk about Jesus? Have you prayed for a decade, and he hasn't answered your prayers? It need not be this way. Jesus is near. Philippians 4:5 Salvation is nigh. Psalm 85:9 The master is coming...

RRDD Is Your Heart Faint?

A faintheartedness can plague us all with feelings of fear and a general lack of courage. This makes us susceptible to being abused by others and codependent in relationships. Steadfast soundness is characterized by being devoted or loyal in your beliefs and not easily manipulated. Steadfast skills are not learned to hang onto toxicity but to hang onto your vibrant, healthy self. 

There is a fainthearted self-evaluation discussed. 

RRD Principle 10

Detachment means to allow myself to learn from my mistakes. This means I will not brook, beat myself up or turn to destructive behaviors. It is an honest evaluation of my actions and their outcomes. Then, I can pursue a plan to make my future look different than my past. 

This lesson explores brokenness as a death of my expectations and acceptance of the inability to change some people or circumstances. We will talk about boundaries and the difference between functional and severe addiction. 

RRD Principle 9

Detachment means to bear another person's crisis, but to allow him to carry his own personal load. A crisis is an accident, injury, severe illness, or natural disaster. A personal load is paying my own rent, utilities, car insurance, car payments, gas, and food. I am not talking about the fiscally responsible working poor, ill or sober homeless.

If I become a pushover for the irresponsible, I will reap the consequences. If I am over-responsible, it will allow others to be under-responsible. This lesson includes an entanglement gauge or reviews true and false recovery markers.

RRDD Rising Above Circumstances

Be not overcome by evil but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:21 In this lesson we will study how to rise above our circumstance through a strong prayer life. We will learn to sit, walk, stand and lie down above our problems. 

RR Detachment Quick Guide

This Detachment Quick Guide will quickly review all 12 detachment principles in one show. Review these 12 principles every night until you can safely detach from toxic thinking and relationships. 

RRD Principle 8

Detachment principle #8 Maturity sees a whirlwind of destruction coming and gets out of the way.  We are going to explore ways to disentangle from codependent, enabling behaviors. This will happen when we can recognize people who control and manipulate us. I give you Scriptural permission to withdraw from the disorderly. They sow to the wind and will reap the whirlwind. Hosea 8:7 We will look at rules for survival. How to identify a lie. How to develop a trust scale. What to do with our unmet needs. And identifying obsessive thinking traps. Finally, we will develop boundaries. 

RRDD Fear of the Future

Fear of the future will have your stomach in knots. Extract the emotional DNA lesson from every situation in your life. Instead, calm your fears by crying out for the grace of God and seeing a growth potential to learn to trust God more and more. 

RRD Principle 7

Detachment means thinking differently. We will evaluate our self-talk and our false belief system. Then we will learn how to handle holiday get togethers. We will process and make sense of suffering and work on the power to tolerate suffering when we set boundaries with our enabling/rescuing behaviors. Have courage to make little decisions each day to detach from abusive situations and people and work towards healing from a chaotic past. 

RRD Principle 6

Detachment means forgiveness, not forgetfulness. Forgiveness can empower me to seek and search for ways to detach from my past and move forward with my life. There will be a discussion on how to forgive and what to do with wounds of bitterness. Forgiveness is separate from reconciliation. Reconciliation if pursued too quickly, may cause a repeat of old patterns of dominance and manipulation. Reconciliation needs to be cautious and careful or may allow repetitive abuse.