Rock of Recovery

RRDD And It Came To Pass

Do not stuff or divorce your emotions, they just turn to bitterness and come out some other way. This lesson outlines a structured 5-10 minute plan to process, feel and detach from your emotions. Emotions need to "come to pass" and not "come to stay."

RRDD Fickleness

In the lesson we will identify how to use our skills of discernment and analyze a series of questions to determine if we have fake friends. Then, we will identify if we are being fake and how we can tell and correct ourselves. 

RR Detachment Principle 5

Detachment means minding my own business. Then I will have the energy to address my issues and be positioned with others who can mentor, encourage and hold me accountable. We will identify some of our dysfunctional behaviors, and learn confrontation skills, repeating patterns, healthier me evaluation, healthier speech evaluation, and reflective thinking questions. Detachment is not about ignoring my emotions. It is about taking responsibility for myself and balancing my empathy for others. 

RR Detachment Principle 4

Detachment respects the boundaries of others to make their own choices and to have their own consequences. Allowing others the privilege to experience the elementary lessons of sowing and reaping is vital to developing good decision-making skills and strength to face the next challenge. My responsibility: 1) I can only control my decisions. 2) I cannot control the final outcomes of those decisions. 3) I am only responsible to change myself. 4) I cannot manage another person's life choices. Now, I must set boundaries and then detach from my emotions so I will be strong and unable to be emotionally manipulated. 

RR Detachment Principle 3

Detachment is finding a healthy identity. My emotional maturity is not dependent on another person or their sobriety. Maturity self-regulates in chaos. This is vital to survival. Learning to cope with non-sense and detach from it is your emotional stability. This lesson explores higher and lower levels of love. There is an identity evaluation quetionnaire and evaluating whether or not you are a rescuer. Rescuers trust in themselves. However, mature love does not fear but learns to let go and trust even in death. Maturity knows Lord is good and his mercy endures forever. 

RR Detachment Principle 2

Principle #2 Detachment brings peace. Detachment is not caring less; but, caring more for my emotional stability. If I make emotional stability my goal, I need to be aware of my instability or imbalance and develop a structured plan to rebalance myself. This lesson includes an Entitlement Evaluation.

RR Detachment Principle 1

Healthy detachment leads to healthy connectedness. Detachment is an emotional developmental maturity skill. Principle #1 Detachment in love without fear. Detachment is not cold, withdrawn or isolated, but a decision to do what is best for myself first. It is a healthy boundary of knowing where my responsibility begins and where it ends.

RR Enabler’s Journey 2 - Profiling Enablers

Courage to Stop the Enabling: Profiling Enablers. There is a prime enabler, primary co-enabler, sympathetic co-enabler, entangled co-enabler, detached co-enablers and unsuspecting co-enablers. Primary enablers are addicted to their loved ones with addiction issues. It is difficult for an enabler to see their own issues because they are so focused on rescuing their loved one with substance use disorder. Enablers need to be confronted and challenged to admit their dysfunctional behaviors. 

RR Enabler’s Journey 1 - Stages of Enabling

An enabler is one who empowers another to persist in self-destructive behaviors that are characteristic in substance use disorder by providing excuses or by making it possible to avoid the consequences of such behaviors. An enabler must realize they are not dealing with their rational loved one, but with one driven by the insatiable demon of addiction. There are 5 stages of grieving denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. The road of acceptance leads to peace. 

RRSSD12 Suffer Well

Rather as servants of God we commend ourselves in every way: in great endurance; in troubles, hardships and distresses..." 2 Corinthians 6:4 We will learn how to develop the character skill of endurance through suffering. The principle in this lesson is: Activating faith makes me strong in any circumstance.