Rock of Recovery

RRDD Fear of the Future

Fear of the future will have your stomach in knots. Extract the emotional DNA lesson from every situation in your life. Instead, calm your fears by crying out for the grace of God and seeing a growth potential to learn to trust God more and more. 

RRD Principle 7

Detachment means thinking differently. We will evaluate our self-talk and our false belief system. Then we will learn how to handle holiday get togethers. We will process and make sense of suffering and work on the power to tolerate suffering when we set boundaries with our enabling/rescuing behaviors. Have courage to make little decisions each day to detach from abusive situations and people and work towards healing from a chaotic past. 

RRD Principle 6

Detachment means forgiveness, not forgetfulness. Forgiveness can empower me to seek and search for ways to detach from my past and move forward with my life. There will be a discussion on how to forgive and what to do with wounds of bitterness. Forgiveness is separate from reconciliation. Reconciliation if pursued too quickly, may cause a repeat of old patterns of dominance and manipulation. Reconciliation needs to be cautious and careful or may allow repetitive abuse.

RRDD And It Came To Pass

Do not stuff or divorce your emotions, they just turn to bitterness and come out some other way. This lesson outlines a structured 5-10 minute plan to process, feel and detach from your emotions. Emotions need to "come to pass" and not "come to stay."

RRDD Fickleness

In the lesson we will identify how to use our skills of discernment and analyze a series of questions to determine if we have fake friends. Then, we will identify if we are being fake and how we can tell and correct ourselves. 

RR Detachment Principle 5

Detachment means minding my own business. Then I will have the energy to address my issues and be positioned with others who can mentor, encourage and hold me accountable. We will identify some of our dysfunctional behaviors, and learn confrontation skills, repeating patterns, healthier me evaluation, healthier speech evaluation, and reflective thinking questions. Detachment is not about ignoring my emotions. It is about taking responsibility for myself and balancing my empathy for others. 

RR Detachment Principle 4

Detachment respects the boundaries of others to make their own choices and to have their own consequences. Allowing others the privilege to experience the elementary lessons of sowing and reaping is vital to developing good decision-making skills and strength to face the next challenge. My responsibility: 1) I can only control my decisions. 2) I cannot control the final outcomes of those decisions. 3) I am only responsible to change myself. 4) I cannot manage another person's life choices. Now, I must set boundaries and then detach from my emotions so I will be strong and unable to be emotionally manipulated. 

RR Detachment Principle 3

Detachment is finding a healthy identity. My emotional maturity is not dependent on another person or their sobriety. Maturity self-regulates in chaos. This is vital to survival. Learning to cope with non-sense and detach from it is your emotional stability. This lesson explores higher and lower levels of love. There is an identity evaluation quetionnaire and evaluating whether or not you are a rescuer. Rescuers trust in themselves. However, mature love does not fear but learns to let go and trust even in death. Maturity knows Lord is good and his mercy endures forever. 

RR Detachment Principle 2

Principle #2 Detachment brings peace. Detachment is not caring less; but, caring more for my emotional stability. If I make emotional stability my goal, I need to be aware of my instability or imbalance and develop a structured plan to rebalance myself. This lesson includes an Entitlement Evaluation.

RR Detachment Principle 1

Healthy detachment leads to healthy connectedness. Detachment is an emotional developmental maturity skill. Principle #1 Detachment in love without fear. Detachment is not cold, withdrawn or isolated, but a decision to do what is best for myself first. It is a healthy boundary of knowing where my responsibility begins and where it ends.